If you would have told me 10 years ago, I would go through some of the things I have gone through, I wouldn’t have believed you. I would have argued with you and told you that it would never happen to me. How naive I was. Not only did I go through, it hurt like hell.
Even though it hurt, I can tell you with full confidence I would not be where I am today. Going through those things has helped me become a better man, now hear me when I say, I am not a perfect man, I am just better man than I used to be. I still have a lot to work on, and I still have a lot to learn but I thank God for allowing me to experience pain. That pain has caused growth and maturity. Of course it hurt and there will still be scars, but those scars don’t define who I am, they just remind me of where I have been. If I ever forget what I have been through or the lessons I learned, I am doomed to repeat my mistakes and failures. I am human, just like you. Even remembering my mistakes, I will probably make them again. Not only am I human, I am stubborn and prideful.
If you are honest with yourself, you would say the same. It is not a bad thing to admit, in fact, I believe it is necessary. If you are aware of your faults, you can take measures to safeguard those areas of your life. If you know anything about me, you know I struggled with porn for a very long time. I know I am week in that area. I was very upfront with my wife about it and we have set up guards and checks in our life to keep us both accountable. The thing I love, she didn’t just expect me to do it, she is doing it also. She has instituted these safeguards even though she has never had a problem in that area. She is supporting me so I don’t have to go through it alone.
You may need something like this also. Someone to come beside you and just be there for you. To let you know you aren’t alone and that you definitely aren’t the only one going through tough times. You aren’t alone and you definitely aren’t helpless. Don’t give up! You have all the strength you need and you have all my support and prayers on your side as well. You are more than capable and have already won, even if you don’t realize it. There is light, life, love, happiness and peace on the other side, trust me!
“The lord hears his people when they call to him for help. He rescues them from all their troubles.” Psalms 34:17 (NLT)